What’s best for me, is best for me.
It might not be the best for you, or for anyone else. But for me, it’s the best.
It’s my decision, and it’s my life.
What’s harder, is figuring out what’s best for me.
How do I do that?
I know what’s best for me
If there’s anything that we should all be respecting and developing, it’s our internal compass.
It’s our own sense of feeling of what’s right or wrong, what’s good for us, and what’s good for others as well.
I’ve heard it so many times said to me as cliches:
Go with your gut.
Trust you intuition.
What do you feel about that?
What’s calling out to you?
Where do you see yourself the most?
A lot of my friends are night persons. They can stay up late, wake up early, or even, just sleep-in all the way to the afternoon. I could never do that.
Part of figuring out what’s best for me, is accepting the fact that I know what’s best for me. That I never was a night person, and that I function better getting to bed early, and waking up early as well.
You’ll know what’s best for you.
The first step, is to trust yourself.
Try out things, and experiment
I’m a big fan of personal experimentation, which is, try new things, and see which works for you.
When I failed and stopped living my life big time, I was desperately searching for ways and practices that would get me out of a rut and get me moving forward again.
I tried many things, and identified and stuck to those that made me feel better, but at the same time, helping me become more driven, productive, and healthy.
I discovered the benefits of working out, by trying one push up per day for two weeks.
I discovered the benefits of reading, not just by reading books that I wanted to read, but by writing notes as I read, and thinking of ways I could apply right away the lessons I learned.
I discovered the benefits of having a close support group, of having people in your camp that believe in you, and will call out your bullshit. Thanks to my close groups of friends, and my wife, for being patient in finding and sculpting the right approach with me.
Try new things for two weeks, and start simple at first. As you get more comfortable, and you feel better and better, as a side effect of the new things you’re trying, then you can ramp up.
Just keep going.
Don’t expect instant results. Trust in the process.
Keep on learning
Because life is not stagnant, but dynamic. It will give you good times, and it will give you testing times.
The trick is to embrace the need to change, and to go along with it, however best you can.
And one way to do so, is to keep on learning.
As I got deeper and deeper into fitness, I learned more and more about what makes us healthy, how my body works, how it responds, and what I can do.
By learning more about me, about how I respond, and my options, I can figure out what’s best for me, and what else can I do to get better, and to find what else is good for me too.
It’s like when I started giving talks and workshops, just standing in front, and delivering my content was a big enough achievement.
Now, I’m focused about engagement, about what my participants remember, and how best I can serve them. How sensitive I can be to picking up cues that will help me serve their agenda more, and support them in both the short-term and long-term.
If there’s something in your life you don’t have, then there’s something you don’t know.
Learn, and keep on learning.
Openness and Acceptance
Sometimes, we hit a wall that we can’t overcome on our own.
And that’s OK. We don’t live in this world alone. And that’s a good thing.
Truth is, there will be times where you don’t know what’s best for you.
I had been lifting for a year and a half already, when some pain and tension came up in my right shoulder.
I tried to massage and finesse the pain away, and identified exercises that caused it, but I couldn’t get them to go away.
For the first time, I wanted to go to a doctor to find out how I can improve my health, and not because I was sick or in an emergency.
He knew what was best for me, and recommended exercises and stretches, which so far, have been working well.
When you don’t know what to do, and you don’t know what’s best for you, have the humility to accept the fact that you do not know, and the openness to get help from people who do.
There will always be something better
But only, if you want it.
Best is a concept that is defined by us.
What is best for you? Only you know the answer to that.
What is the best you?
Only you can make that into reality.
How have you figured out what’s best for you? Let me know in the comments below!