I feel each of us has both, in different measures, but in amounts that reflect our choices and the decisions that we make.
What we choose to get into, or out of.
What we choose to keep, or let go of.
It’s all about the choices that you make.
So where has life driven me, so far?
This is real
Lately, I’ve been doing more introspection than usual, right before I was drafting copy for a number of products that I wanted to test.
That statement alone, says a lot about what I’ve been doing, right, and wrong.
See, I’ve achieved some minor measure of success. I’ve succeeded in dragging myself out my pit of despair, and have built habits that help me push forward and, put simply, have better and better days.
Except, that what got me here, won’t get me there.
I’ve been unhappy, been down in the dumps.
And at the end of it all, I’ve thrown out so many requirements. So many things that I want.
I want a business.
I want steadier income.
I want my shoulder and my back to heal.
I want to get healthier.
I want to have fun.
I want to stop worrying about my life, my career, and my money.
It’s all about happiness.
And my damn many requirements of it.
What is life all about?
And there’s no one answer that would be correct.
But there are many answers that find are just flat-out wrong.
I’ve found that life isn’t all about chasing after requirements and credentials.
I’ve found that life doesn’t give a shit about you. It only cares about compensating you for the energy, effort, and commitment that you put into serving it, and others.
I’ve found that life isn’t about focusing on what you don’t have, and that it’s a sucky way to live.
And here I am writing this article, expressing myself, and calling myself out, because focusing on what I don’t have, and how my life sucks, was the only way I knew how to live.
Same with a lot of you folks out there.
Life is all about what you want it to be about.
The question then becomes: What do you want your life to be about?
And are you happy about that?
Wrestling with reality
I got to this place because I unsuccessfully read and accepted what the reality is for me.
The most successful people, and my most successful coachees, were able to accept and get real with the rock-hard realities that they were facing. About the situations they were in, and of themselves.
They were able to get to a baseline of truth, and form there, work towards changing the reality into one that they envisioned and wanted.
I was wrestling with the realities that I wasn’t willing and able to accept – much to my detriment.
That I’m not good at selling, or copywriting.
That I’m not as energetic, entertaining, or warm as a lot of my other contemporaries in this profession.
That I’m not as good as managing the pain – both physical and emotional.
This work of mine really takes a toll, and there really is no other way, but to face your own issues and roadblocks.
It’s the only way to get to being a better coach, a better consultant and partner.
And heck, a better human being.
Crazy is a choice.
Happiness is a choice.
Love is a choice.
Do you choose to be happy, despite all of your shortcomings and deficiencies? Or do you choose to let that drive you crazy, always focusing on what’s not there, driving you to anxiety and worry.
What, are you choosing to see?