There are times when life, flat out, feels like a gamble.
That feeling of you don’t know what you’re doing, and you’re just going with the flow, hoping to make it big.
Or you’re so sure you’re going to win big, but then you lose big time.
The next time you bet, you remember your big loss, and then you don’t bet as much anymore.
There is no easy way out. No such thing as money for nothing.
The universe takes what people aren’t ready to keep.
What do you do when you feel like life is just one big gamble?
Take back control, and build freedom in your life.
There’s a side of gambling that says I don’t have control. That all I can do is ride my luck and hope for the best.
Life doesn’t work that way.
Nothing in life, is at its heart, really a gamble.
For that to happen, I had to realize that I do have control of my life.
And that through what I choose to do, say, and believe, I was having an impact on the outcomes that I was getting.
I had to develop the self-awareness first, to catch myself whenever I was thinking that I had no choice, that I was powerless in the face of life and random chance.
You can always choose to do something, and in my case, I realized that what I did, no matter how small, would either serve to move me forward, or to rob my power.
Self-control is a habit. Discipline is a habit. People aren’t born with it.
Success is a habit.
Build your freedom in your life, bit by bit, instead of relying on gambles and luck to provide for you.
To come through for you.
Stack the odds in your favor.
Take control, and build your freedom.
Uncertainty is a part of life, but no matter how muddled things get, you always have a choice.
You can choose to do something, or nothing at all. Not choosing to do anything is a choice, an action by itself.
There will always be a risk in whatever you do. The question though is: “Are you letting that risk stop you?”
Do you let the risk, the uncertainty, and the fear, put you into a panic?
Or do you let it paralyze you?
For a long time, I thought that if I stood still, and chose not to do anything in times of confusion and uncertainty, I was being calm.
I was completely wrong, and I paid the price several times over for it.
Choosing not to do anything, being paralyzed, is also a sign of panic. It’s you being negatively affected and stopped by how unsure the situation is, and the inability to decide on a course of action.
Getting calm, and being calm, means being able to make a decision and a course of action, based on information that you have, even if it’s not complete, and even if it’s not clear.
Even if the decision is to get clearer. That’s still forward action.
Instead of just sitting still, and being paralyzed by the uncertainty.
Anchor yourself on what is clear.
There are times when I had to just make a decision, but this actually applies to all decision making that we have to make in our lives.
Anchor yourself on what is clear to you, what actually happened, and is there, instead of the imaginary conclusions and assumptions we often make in our heads.
I wasted so much time relying on my experience, which led to me making assumptions and guesses about what people were going to do, how they might interpret me and what I say.
When all I really needed to make the best decision, was to first identify what was clear and non-negotiable, as well as what wasn’t clear to me.
Then, it didn’t seem like gambling anymore, where I was just relying on pure chance to win big. Something for nothing.
I was slowly investing in the outcome, making better and better decisions, and gaining more and more control over my life.
When I was a kid, I wanted to be a mind reader. I’d try to figure out what people were thinking, in the hopes of correctly guessing how they would act and react.
That got me nowhere fast, and just a lot of people annoyed at me.
What is clear? Anchor yourself on what is clear to you.
Trust your gut
Intuition, your body, and your feelings are powerful, and they tell you something.
But you have to be willing to learn, and let your gut, your instincts, learn their lessons too.
It’s like the many people in my life who wish, pray, and hope to win the lottery.
They say they have a feel for the magic numbers, or what would most likely win in that day’s drawing.
Thank God life isn’t lived like that.
Otherwise, why work at all? If like the lottery, it’s all random.
Life isn’t all random.
Life allows you to slowly stack the odds in your favor.
Life allows you to take control of your life, and make choices.
Life allows you to learn, and to find out what works or not.
More often than not, we want to get success and riches quick and easy. That’s the allure of gambling.
But at the same time, that’s gamblings’ deadliest trap. To get anything in life, you have to be willing to pay the price.
Even to hone intuition and your gut, you have to pay the price.
If life were a casino, it’s doing a good job of scaring the hell out of me.
Out of all of us.
And the reason why casinos make a lot of money, is because when people bet, they bet to not lose.
It’s all of us clinging to safety and security, afraid of losing it all and going home shirtless.
What if we all did what we could to stack the odds in our favor?
What if we all bet to win?
What if we were so sure that we would succeed?
Wouldn’t we go all-in?
Unlike a casino, life doesn’t have limits.
It pays out what you ask of it, what you’re ready to receive.
Has life ever felt like a gamble for you? Please share in the comments below!