I just woke up after another 7 hours of sleep, only to get no rest, and have my body ache all over. Got a ton of things to do, and I rush to prepare to get out of house and get to work.
I endured the morning commute and get to the office, looking like I was ready to go home instead.
Actually, I also felt ready to go home already. I was raring to get home and spend my time on other things. At 8:02 in the morning. What could happen next?
Then my girlfriend calls, and I proceed to share all the bad and unfair things that have been happening to me for the past few days. It felt good to somehow get that all of of my chest.
My poor girlfriend, stuck with having to listen to all of that bad vibrations.
And me, still stuck where I am, nothing having changed after all that whining and ranting.
I look back on that moment, and I realize I was just beating up myself, and beating up others as well. I wasn’t a very fun person to be with that time. Yuck.
It could have been worse. That actually wasn’t the worst day I’ve ever had, and even then there was still something to be thankful for.
Like: “Thank God I’m still alive after all that.”
I’ve got a lot of things to be thankful for, but if I let negativity rule my life, I’ll see nothing else but the bad that’s happening to me.
And eventually, I’ll lose all the good I have in it.
Even in attitudes and feelings, “If you don’t use it, you lose it.” Wouldn’t it be wonderful if everybody didn’t use their negativity, stupidity, closed-mindedness, ego, and pride at all?
What a wonderful world that would be.
That sad and poor story of my day I told earlier? Good thing we have the power to change all of that, and live the lives we want to be living. We may not get there right away, but bit by bit, if we put in the effort and openness to change, we’ll get there.
Find moments, things, people to be grateful for, no matter how small. Be conscious and aware, force yourself even. Recognize the little blessings, the little positive things that you have and are going on in your life.
It can be as simple as someone opening the door for you, or even the air you breathe and the food you eat. Even better, express your appreciation and thanks.
Make choices that will make you happy. Choices that get you where you want to go in life. In all things and situations, you always have a choice, no matter how small. Use those choices you’ve got to get more positive in your, get happier, and to get the life that you want.
One small choice I made, and keep on making, is to cut the amount of carbs I eat daily. I want to get healthier, so I watch what I eat.
This also means getting clear on where you want to go and what you want out of life. So you’ll know where you’re headed with your choices.
Be in the moment. Live life, and stop worrying. Worrying never changed anything. Beliefs and Action change everything. Spend your energy there, instead of worrying.
And all you’ve got is right now. What you do now can’t change the past, and is the only way to change the future. Be here now.
Respect the Muse. Respect creativity, inspiration, and your passions. Get to writing, building, and creating. Find an outlet where you can work to bring something into this world.
Don’t let your ideas, inspirations, and moments slip away into the wind, never to come back again.
So write, draw, play, make music, teach, coordinate, organize, build, invent, travel, express, and share.
And love. Plenty.
Schedule time for yourself. To recharge yourself and do things alone, to disconnect from distractions and reconnect with yourself. We live in an age of distraction, and it’s ruining relationships, minds, and hearts of people when they spend too much time “plugged in.”
Or get to know yourself more. Spend some time thinking about things, where you are right now, and where you want to go. Or being thankful with what you’ve got, and how you can share that with the rest of the world, or your child.
Spend some alone time. Spend some time on yourself.
Spend time with happy, positive, forward-moving people. Feelings, Attitudes, and Values are taught, and transferred person to person via osmosis.
Get away from negative, soul-sucking people. People who don’t share what you want in life. Don’t spend too much time with them.
“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with” said Jim Rohn. I don’t know who the guy is but what he said makes a whole lot of sense.
You can’t choose your family, and sometimes you can’t choose the people you meet and encounter in life, but thank God you can choose who you spend your time with. Choose wisely.
Make visual reminders for yourself to stay positive, not negative. We humans are visual creatures. A poster, a little card on our desk, somewhere we can see, and a simple reminder, works wonders in getting us to get positive. Or reminding us to stay positive, grateful , happy, and make choices count.
Get to making a you and a life that you want. Don’t care about what other people think. You are not defined by them. Get to defining yourself, and living life by your rules, not theirs.
Use your time wisely, and productively. Don’t waste time. It’s a non-renewable, non-transferable, non-refundable resource. And it’s what we need to live life day by day.
You only have so much seconds in this world, and a second not wasted in negativity is a second better used elsewhere.
Believe in yourself, in what you can do, and in what you want. If you believe in it deeply, you’ll find ways to make it happen. If you believe you can do it, you’ll be confident in finding ways and putting yourself in situations where you can make things happen, and get what you want.
The belief and action comes before the result. It’s a test of how much are you willing to put in and let go to get to the result. Hopefully learning a thing or two in the process.
And stop telling and believing the bullshit stories you make up and tell yourself. Stories that tell you: “You can’t do this.” Turn it around, and tell yourself the ways you can succeed instead.
Negativity doesn’t lead to success. Positivity does.
Have any tips on how to get and stay positive, and have more happiness in your life? Please share in the comments below!
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