Whenever I would be hurt, in pain, frustrated, or down, I’d be looking for comfort. Wouldn’t you? Whatever makes you comfortable?
I was looking for what would ease the pain, and give me comfort from the hurt, embarrassment, and shame that I felt when I failed at something I thought I would succeed at.
All my body, mind, and heart wanted to do and feel was comfortable. To help soothe the wounds and recover again.
But that feeling of comfort? It’s a curse.
When I found my piece of comfort, I have to admit, it felt so good.
Too good, in fact, that I didn’t want to leave my “comfort zone”.
Only then, did I know what that term meant.
I grew complacent in my comfort. In that phase of my life, I avoided pain and risk, and didn’t want to put myself out there, for fear of going back to being the frazzled, confused, and frustrated me.
I didn’t want to rock the boat, and I became content with whatever I had.
I knew that by staying in my comfort zone, and choosing comfort over commitment, I wouldn’t get any closer to the dreams that I wanted to reach.
But those dreams were clouded and hid by the immediate need and attachment to comfort. As well as by the fear of pain and frustration, from which I experienced.
And, even now, I catch myself still hearing, and entertaining, the comfort and fear.
Comfort is the hook of the now, the feelings inside of us that want to be served and satisfied now, instead of delaying gratification, and working towards the future.
Comfort breeds complacency.
It’s the feeling that I don’t want to get out of my bed, even though there’s so much to do.
Because it’s just so comfortable.
The comfort of the now, hiding the looming unpreparedness and failure in the future.
You only reap what you sow.
So if you don’t get to sowing, what then will you reap?
So in my previous job, if I had just put out status quo and average output, would I be more comfortable?
Yes I would, I’d have more time for myself, have a stable monthly income, and have an air conditioned, fully equipped workplace.
Instead, I put out more than average, and tried to give my best in what I had to do.
As a result, I had less time for myself, spent more energy and time into what I had to do, and spent less time watching videos on Youtube or just surfing on Facebook.
All of that, so that I could have more time for myself, earn wildly more than what I could earn with a stable income given the time, and I have the flexibility to work wherever I want, almost.
If I wanted comfort now, then I would have it. But that would be it.
Mediocre comfort now, in exchange for meteoric comfort later.
But you’ve got to plan, move, do something to go for it. And keep on going for it in the face of obstacles.
That’s why there’s obstacles in life, to weed out those who really don’t want it. Those who would rather fall back into the open arms of comfort and laziness in the immediate present.
Comfort breeds laziness.
Comfort shrinks thinking
Too much comfort, or being too happy with the level of comfort where you are right now, shrinks thinking.
Because, in a way, you’ve got what you want. Why do I have to rack my head for whatever else?
If yes, then that’s great. But ask yourself, is this really all that you want? Or could there be something more?
Are you just afraid, frustrated, to try? If you fail, are you afraid of losing the comfort you have right now?
I remember writing about John, who wanted to get back with his ex because he feels that it’s too hard to look for someone else in this world.
Just because you had a taste of comfort, and lost it, doesn’t mean you can’t go out there and try.
And find what can be more comfortable for you. Or better for you.
Don’t stop thinking, searching, and doing. Comfort can blind us to the other, greater, possibilities by asking us to hyper focus on what we have now, discounting the fact that there are other ways, options, steps, factors, and possible events.
We stop thinking, we start hyper focusing, instead of widening, and dreaming.
The Curse of Comfort.
By giving us a small taste of things to come, and making us believe that that’s all that we get, comfort distracts us from action and focusing on the goal and the bigger things.
It makes us complacent. That what we have is all there is.
It makes us lazy. That what we have now is better than what we could possibly have in the future.
It shrinks our thinking. That there are no other options left for us.
Don’t give in.
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