Our minds think, and our “hearts”, feel.
As kids, we have an intuitive sense of connection between the two, being able to quickly shift between the two, and just finding ways to express ourselves and be in our natural state.
But our experiences growing up, expectations, our parents, and a large part, our educational system, quickly severed the connection, preferring to make us use our minds, and only our minds.
We need to find ways to become intelligent again – integrated, and whole, and not one-dimensional.
How then do we bridge the gap between our mind, and our heart?
Ask how you feel
It seems simple, but I often took my feelings for granted.
It was always about what I was thinking about, and what decision would I come up with logically.
But not all choices can be made with numbers, Xs and Os.
Or to be clearer – that’s not how I want to be living my life.
I lean towards being more analytical, but I certainly have felt the power of being connected to my feelings.
Also known as a gut instinct, a hunch – which can come from years of experience.
But most obviously, feelings come from who you really are inside.
Focus on them, and allow yourself the space to recognize and accept what you’re feeling.
That begins by searching for them. Ask yourself the question, and invite the feeling.
Give it a name, a description, an action, an image.
Get comfortable with feelings. They are a part of you and your wisdom.
Who are you, and what is your purpose?
This is one of the most difficult questions I’ve ever faced, because not only does it involve the courage to make a choice, but the courage to find out what you might not expect.
By just being yourself, you strengthen the mind and heart connection, because then, you don’t put on aside over the other, just to play out your roles, attitudes, and decisions on who you are.
I believe that we build up to our professions, careers, and even choose our identities.
But, we rediscover, who we really are, and what our purpose is.
And all of that, there is no logical choice, no percentages, for choosing the correct answer to purpose and who you really are.
And as such, it is the journey, and practice, to strengthen the mind and heart connection.
So then, the journey to be yourself, is not about doing. It’s not about doing anything.
It’s simply about being, and noticing.
Noticing where you want to go, what you’re pulled towards, what you’re running from. What you’re afraid of, and what you really, really, really want.
The world today tells us to always be doing stuff.
We’re not -being- enough.
Don’t just do.
Our minds are here for a reason, and so is our feelings.
Don’t deny them, they are a part of your inner wisdom.
The stronger connection there is, the stronger, happier, and calmer you will be.
Not separate, but together.
What have you done to link both your mind and heart? Please share in the comments below!