Ask myself, I did, but with regret, frustration, anger, and resentment.
I never got the results that I wanted, and felt like my life was going nowhere.
And in the times I did feel some progress, I felt it wasn’t going fast enough.
What do you feel, when you ask yourself, “Where did that year go?”
Anger, Frustration, and Resentment
There were times in my life, where a new year was fast approaching, and I was just caught by surprise at the speed and urgency of time flying by.
Time that I’ll never be able to get back.
But time that I look back on how I spent, and time that made me feel deep regret.
I especially remember the end of the year when I closed down two businesses. That was rough. I was so angry at what happened, so frustrated with myself, and resentful at all those people who didn’t help me, and at myself, for not doing enough to succeed.
“Where did that year go?”
And even the next year was no better for me. I looked back on that year, and felt the same anger, frustration, and resentment at not having anything solid to show for those years.
It was like I was spinning my wheels, and going nowhere.
And even inside, my mind, and my emotions were whirling around.
I didn’t know how to set myself straight, and move my life forward.
Hindsight is always 20/20, and now, it seems as clear as daylight what happened, and how I got to that result.
When I first felt those feelings, I had a deep sense of desperation well up inside of me. I thought that I had to be doing more, and that things would just naturally come to me, when I do keep doing work.
I was dead wrong.
I kept on spinning my wheels, and the next year, kept spinning them faster, but I was getting nowhere, still.
Then, I thought the opportunities and things that I wanted would just come naturally to me, and when they weren’t coming, I just resolved to accept whatever comes my way. Whatever the wind brought to me.
Which wasn’t a lot, and not all were good and healthy for me.
It wasn’t about how fast I was spinning my wheels. It wasn’t all about how much I was doing.
And it certainly wasn’t about waiting for the right things to come.
What did I learn?
It doesn’t matter how fast you work, if you don’t know where you’re going.
And on the off chance I had an idea where I wanted to go, what I was doing wasn’t actually important to my goal!
The first point I learned is about direction. I had to identify where it was where I wanted to go, and what was actually important.
Important to me.
And, important to achieving my goal.
Before I actually had to do anything, I first had to identify what it was that I had to do, to create the biggest effect on my progress to reach the goal at hand.
Put simply, does it matter?
And, will the actions to reach the goal, and its accomplishment, create a positive impact on my life, or in the areas that matter to me?
It’s not about what you do first.
It’s about where do you want to go?
All things come to those who wait, and keep working for it.
The second lesson I learned was one of patience.
When I started working on a goal, or on learning a new skill, I found that I had a tendency to want to see immediate results, or I’d give up, and move to the next thing.
I never really gave myself a chance to build my skills, get better, learn anything new.
I was looking for a quick fix. I thought that if I just waited, and waited, the lucky break will come.
Again, how wrong I was.
Lucky breaks don’t come to those who wait and do nothing. People work hard, consistently, perseveringly, and then the lucky break comes, and they are ready to take advantage of them.
Maybe on of those lucky break opportunities already passed my way, but since I wasn’t ready to receive, I didn’t have the skills to take advantage of them, Or I didn’t recognize it, I just let it go.
I learned that I had to be patient with myself, and have faith in the process, and keep working consistently.
It’s the small actions, compounded over time, that lead to great results.
I’ve been going to the gym for almost a year now, and only now have I started seeing noticeable results. Probably because it was my friends and family who was noticing!
Be patient with yourself.
Pride, Happiness, Accomplishment.
And perhaps, a little bit of excitement as well.
Those were the feelings I had when I asked myself, “Where did that year go?”
Not only did I have to change two fundamental things that I was doing, but I went through a process to prepare for my year ahead, and to keep me moving towards my goals.
So when the time came for me to ask:
“Where did that year go?”
I could confidently face that question head-on, with no negativity.
All confidence, freedom, excitement, and gratitiude.
For the year that was, and for the year to come.
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