A limiting belief, is the strongest obstacle that there is.
Thanks to our experiences, our upbringing, and maybe through sheer nature, we have beliefs that we’re not even aware about, but are stopping us from getting what we want.
You might not know how they came about, but you can surely change them.
I wrote about some ways you can change your beliefs, here.
But now, I’d like to share with you 4 more ways you can change, or create powerful, enabling beliefs.
As defined, is the subconscious adoption of a behavior that one has originated oneself. This is usually done verbally, through repetition.
Put simply, it’s telling yourself over and over, what you want to see and believe, and let that take root and grow inside of you.
Say it, until you believe it.
And eventually, if you keep saying it, you will.
Language and our environment has such a powerful effect on us, our thinking, and how we see things. If we say negative things, we’re only reinforcing those negative beliefs in our head.
Like how I used to keep saying that it was so hard to earn money. Or that I’ll never be a fit person. Or always telling myself that I wasn’t good enough.
So what happened? After years of telling myself these things over and over, I found myself broke, with a broken back, fat and unhealthy, and with no confidence in my abilities.
All of the things I was telling myself, came true.
So what if I told myself otherwise? I told myself that I am worthy of such achievements, I’m getting better, and that I’m the person I want to become.
I’m becoming the person I want to become.
And along with that, I tell myself what steps I need to do to get there. And that I’m committed to doing these things to make it work.
And that I believe that whatever rewards I’m looking for, will come true if I stay the course, and believe.
What would you then tell yourself?
Create affirmations, a mantra, positive statements, about the life you want, the person you want to become, and all the little details you consider important.
Also important is the steps to get there, and that you commit to making these happen. Tell them to yourself in the morning, and in the evening.
Heck, tell them to yourself as often as you can.
Slowly, you’ll come around to believing them.
Because what you tell yourself, is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Words come true. Especially in your mind.
Get around people.
Get around people, who believe what you want to believe, who are on the road to becoming the person you want to become, and who are doing what you want to be doing.
You will be amazed at how effective this is at changing your beliefs, and opening up how you see situations and possibilities.
This is also why getting mentored, and having great mentors, or a great boss, is such a life-changing experience. I can attest to the power of that.
It’s not only their experience, but mores, their viewpoints, mindset, how they see, or don’t see things, and the possibilities and opportunities that they can derive from situations, or obstacles.
Values are ultimately caught, and not taught. I remember having learned so much just being around great people, and being inspired and motivated to take action, change myself, and help others in big ways, instead of just lazing around.
Choose your friends.
Choose your mentors.
Choose the people you spend your time with.
Compare what you’re getting now, to what you could be getting.
This is a matter of perspective, and of orientation.
To change a mindset, a belief about something, is to shift how you see things, and to identify distinctions that would cause you to change.
And what do you believe about what you want, and what it takes to get there?
That should tell you a lot about your limiting beliefs, and what you need to change.
I used to believe that it was hard to become rich, that it was hard to earn money.
But then, I thought, dreamed, about a life with money, and the freedom that brings with it. Along with, that, I noticed my limiting beliefs.
“Money is evil.”, “It’s hard to earn money.”, and “I’ll never be rich.”
I worked hard to turn those around, and still do.
I turned those statements around into their positive versions, to support my dreams.
“Money is good.”
“Money can be earned.”
“I will be rich.”
Those were my starting points.
Baby steps, don’t step out too far, too soon.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Have a little doubt.
Because it’s scary, and shocking.
You can get hurt.
But you can also get better.
Only if you let yourself.
I learned this lesson the hard way. When I was afraid to get hurt, to look like a fool, I had a lot of limiting beliefs, because I was more focused on how I presented and projected myself, rather than developing my true abilities and skills.
I had to have a little doubt, that what I was doing, was wrong.
And that there was a better way.
In this way, the self-doubt, and the vulnerability that followed, helped me immensely.
Allow yourself to be confidently vulnerable.
To find out what’s not helping, and be OK with changing it, and working on it.
To be OK with changing things up, even though you’ve already gotten used to, and afraid to leave, what’s comfortable.
Bonus: Set up rituals to change belief
Beliefs can be changed with specific rituals and routines, that you can identify and build yourself, and get to working for yourself.
Remember, trust in the process, and have faith in the little steps that you take, for sooner or later, they will turn into bigger and bigger steps.
If what you’re thinking, believing, isn’t working,
it’s time to change that.
What’s one belief that’s holding you back? Please share in the comments below!